Before I start writing, I would like to thank my friend AK for giving me the idea for this one.
Why people are hypocrite ?
Answer is simple, people who fake it are the one who can't make it.
Well that's not entirely true. Me and AK have been faking it since many years.
And we definitely, can make it.
To understand this lets go back a few years. The school time. Now in school either you are the bully or you get bullied, you may be thinking oh I was not bullied, neither did I bully someone. But I am here to tell you if you were not bullied, then Yes you were a bully. Remember when you were laughing at that kid who fell down? or You made fun of that kid who did not speak much, did not have any friends, secretly loved a beautiful girl but never had balls to talk to her. Cut this short you made fun of everyone who was weird or polite or gullible or WEAK.
Then it all starts, the who's being bullied learns a lesson, a lessons that teaches him that straight trees are the first to touch the ground. So he decides to do things that look real but ain't real. In simple words he learns how to deal with a hypocrite.
Me and AK often discuss this person was talking shit about me behind my back what we ought to do about this ? We ignore shit unless it starts hurting our prestige. Once the shit reaches an alarming stage we definitely have to stop it somehow.
First start talking to that person, find out why he is shitting all over about you rather than minding his own business. It takes great communication skills to do such sort of thing. Also you ought to be a real smart ass. But what about the loners, the hermits ? The main reason they can't accomplish this task is because they are shy, they don't know how to be social. I am one of them. In that case the best way is to become a hypocrite. Start faking it and keep calm. Once you master the art, you will realize that people are realizing that rumors ain't affecting you. They will eventually stop. But you gotta have a lot of patience. We live in world where half of the people are somehow some sort of sadist. They enjoy watching you hurt, when you react outrageously. Stop losing your cool for their entertainment. For instance, my colleagues were discussing some shit I don't give a rats ass about, somehow they were on a topic climbing a mountain and out of nowhere they pointed at me with a comment "Choudhary wouldn't even climb 200 meters". You know what I did? Nothing, because I know how many mountain I've been on, I belong to mountains (Himachal Pradesh), I'm a chain smoker and I completed a 10 fucking kilometers marathon couple of months ago. But I didn't say anything. I kept my cool and as usual their discussion about how shitty their lives are continued. Now if only I had boasted about my stamina we would've gotten into an argument and who knows but things get worse when I argue. So that comment of his went null, void, flop, no harm done to me. That's how we save ourselves from stupid arguments.
Other example, people see you going out with somebody of opposite sex. Be it office, college, school, you're the
news my friend. If you had a fight with somebody then if the person is mature he'll get over it, otherwise he will start thinking of ways to bring you down. In both the example you don't know who's with you or who's against you. So first start believing in your instinct. Stay careful about what you discuss and do not discuss any personal stuff you never know if that information would be used as a weapon against you and you will sit and think "fuck, I gave him the Kalashnikov he's firing at me
" this will be like insulting your injury.
The one rule you should remember at such places - Take with a grain of salt.
It's simple fellas if you start taking shit seriously, your life will become a shit sooner or later. So make time for important things. Do not make a lot of friends, but make trustworthy, meaningful friends. Be smart, always learn something. This will make you more productive.
Vivek Choudhary
