Monday 28 September 2015

Love defined... Part 2 : The first love

This is about those who could not get their first love and will walk on the earth knowing that they will love her forever but they can't do anything about it. It's just a bunch of memories, a lot of memories that made them laugh someday but now gives just pain and we often smile through that pain looking at the sky, It feels so helpless.

No matter how many years go by, that one person just don't fade away from our memories. What makes that person so special ? Why no one else can fill that gap ? well its the first experience of love, people are honest, they don't know the rules,can't figure out whats the truth or they just don't see it, Love makes people blind. I knew a girl who dated a guy 10 years older than her we all knew it would end badly and it did, why we were able to see it but she couldn't ? Because she was in love, that's what love does. A few lucky couples like Lilly and Marshall gets it, but majority of us are like Ted/Robin.


Its kind of simple to understand it though, whatever we do for the first time we most probably mess it up. We are not perfect but this is something which hurts real bad, and the worst part is no one knows what you are going through and you can't explain it also. The first time you rode bicycle, you fell right ? everyone did. Even though our parents were there to support us and help us but we still fell many times and finally we learned it. In case of love, the first one happens when we are too young to understand, its called first crush, and majority of these crushes are not even realistic, e.g crush on teacher, crush on a college girl next door etc. But crush is one sided. Let's talk about the first relationship, the complete one, the mutual one. Pretty exciting right, saying "I love you" getting the same 3 words back from her feels amazing or the first time right. Everything is beautiful all you can think about is your partner, you get used to it, not a single day goes by when you don't talk to her. That first kiss, I bet this is one memory you'll take to the grave. But this very first relationship ends, and the one who was honest and committed to it gets hurt, there could be many reasons but it doesn't matter. All you can do is cry, that too alone.
I am a realistic and I have been there too, it took me more than a year to get over that breakup.
But we can't let our past ruin the present and future. I would suggest accept reality as soon as possible, let the memories be there but, start making new ones.

Love does not recognize the terms hide and seek. When it happens, it becomes visible without any fear or hesitation.


P.S
God bless all those who were hurt due to this in life.

Vivek Choudhary
Survivor

Tuesday 22 September 2015

The Ellen DeGeneres Show

I was switching TV channels on a random morning, I stopped at one because the cute lady was saying something on the show and I decided to hear her out.
It was The Ellen DeGeneres Show, I have never seen it before but for some reasons I decided not to switch channels ahead and give it a try, and it was awesome. I got some new information (or old I am assuming it was late Indian telecast) from it too, like Obama in trailer of Dancing with stars, official announcement of Finding Dory by Pixar and Ellen.


So on this episode (Season 13 Episode 09) Ellen was trying to kick football and she asked a girl to come up on stage and try, the girl tried, she was filled with enthusiasm. That girl was so excited and jumping, extremely happy to be on the show. Then later Ellen showed her the car they were about to give that girl, you know the reaction when people get expensive stuff on TV shows, it was the same but this show is something different. If you take different types of show, a comedy show, musical show, a celebrity show (this type is so common that those too frequent celebs will soon be common) and human-interest stories, oh I forgot one "the 15 minutes fame" so take them all and put it in a grinder ,mix them well and the juice will be The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Its good, unique and a whole package deal. And I will give the credit to the entire team of this show and Ellen.
With this blog I am doing my little bit to encourage the makers/presenter of  a quality show,
Great Show guys and Ellen.


P.S
I am happy for the girl that got the car, god bless her :)


Vivek Choudhary

Wednesday 2 September 2015

Ownership - The Corporate World

All those who work in corporate industry know what its like when the manager comes to you and asks about a problem, now if you whine about it, its not a good idea. You need to take ownership in the job you do. If you are assigned to do a job then all the headache is yours, the issues you will face, the solutions, everything. You are supposed to get the job done no matter what issues you face, if you have a problem then do not speak until you have a solution to it. If you take a good look at all the successful people out there you will find that, all of them know their job, they take their time, they get the job done.

I am writing about ownership because I come across many people who do not take responsibility in their actions, and I just don't get it, when it comes to appreciation everyone is like *me* but when it comes to criticism they are like *he*. Its not good morally and socially too, you will lose respect.
When you take ownership, you might be taking responsibility for many people's mistake but that makes the difference, Ownership takes you to the next level, eventually you will realize the management notices your work and people respect you more. You will soon be one of those guys who makes the decision. But all this will happen if you follow some basic rules
-I get paid by the company I should be loyal to it.
-I should respect the company because I get respect because of it.
-I am assigned to work on this project and I will give my best.

Always remember, you will get the best if you give the best. Don't think you work gets unnoticed, never ever, everything you do, all your actions are noticed, so make sure you leave a good impression.
The theory of survival of the fittest fits at all scenarios.
Take ownership and you will see the difference.


Vivek Choudhary
Senior Practitioner
Project Management System