Love defined... Part 3 : Letting Go

This is the third series of my post Love Defined.
I am not an expert in love but I have had some good and bad experience in love. That makes me good enough to write about it. At least I know how it feels. This post is about in case you can't hold the relationship any longer and someone has to go.

There will be a time when things will go out of control, there could be any reason for this, a third person, family, distance etc. There will be a time in which there can be damage control but there will also be a time where you can do nothing about it. And its really hard to let go. One has to reevaluate his/her complete life, hold the shit together and start from scratch. It changes people. Now we all know that we should not think about past, but when a relationship ends it takes a part of you with it and in that case its very hard to get over it. I suggest in that time you should stop listening to sad songs and get busy in living. Get back with your friends and have fun. It won't help that much but it sure will reduce your alone time. Try to understand that this was meant to be, you were born (also) to be a part of this incomplete love story but that also suggests that this is not the end, there is a lot more. Things you can't see, the future, the bright shining future of yours. Its up to you whether you want to restart or just go to sleep mode.

There will be someone who will hug you so tight that all your broken pieces will fit together and you will forget about all the past. You will feel it, you will start dreaming again. Dreaming is very important, it keeps you alive, never stop dreaming.


Vivek Choudhary

Love defined... Part 2 : The first love

This is about those who could not get their first love and will walk on the earth knowing that they will love her forever but they can't do anything about it. It's just a bunch of memories, a lot of memories that made them laugh someday but now gives just pain and we often smile through that pain looking at the sky, It feels so helpless.

No matter how many years go by, that one person just don't fade away from our memories. What makes that person so special ? Why no one else can fill that gap ? well its the first experience of love, people are honest, they don't know the rules,can't figure out whats the truth or they just don't see it, Love makes people blind. I knew a girl who dated a guy 10 years older than her we all knew it would end badly and it did, why we were able to see it but she couldn't ? Because she was in love, that's what love does. A few lucky couples like Lilly and Marshall gets it, but majority of us are like Ted/Robin.

Its kind of simple to understand it though, whatever we do for the first time we most probably mess it up. We are not perfect but this is something which hurts real bad, and the worst part is no one knows what you are going through and you can't explain it also. The first time you rode bicycle, you fell right ? everyone did. Even though our parents were there to support us and help us but we still fell many times and finally we learned it. In case of love, the first one happens when we are too young to understand, its called first crush, and majority of these crushes are not even realistic, e.g crush on teacher, crush on a college girl next door etc. But crush is one sided. Let's talk about the first relationship, the complete one, the mutual one. Pretty exciting right, saying "I love you" getting the same 3 words back from her feels amazing or the first time right. Everything is beautiful all you can think about is your partner, you get used to it, not a single day goes by when you don't talk to her. That first kiss, I bet this is one memory you'll take to the grave. But this very first relationship ends, and the one who was honest and committed to it gets hurt, there could be many reasons but it doesn't matter. All you can do is cry, that too alone.
I am a realistic and I have been there too, it took me more than a year to get over that breakup.
But we can't let our past ruin the present and future. I would suggest accept reality as soon as possible, let the memories be there but, start making new ones.

Love does not recognize the terms hide and seek. When it happens, it becomes visible without any fear or hesitation.


P.S
God bless all those who were hurt due to this in life.

Vivek Choudhary
Survivor

When you die inside... Part 2 of Dealing with breakup

First of all, you start ignoring the whole world, people talk to you but you just sit or stand there like you're dead and when they shake you a little you realize you're with people and they are talking to you.

Then you make a stupid excuse and leave that place, people-friends try to find out what happened but you've no answer. They look at your face and can tell you're about to cry but you just can't help it. Each minute seems like an hour. You look at your phone every 5 seconds.

And you have no hunger or thirst, you don't need water or food now. Because if somehow you try to eat it just won't go through your throat you'll chew and chew but you cannot swallow.

You walk like a dead person, and people try their level best to cheer you up, but no one can do anything.
You've to survive on your own, Even Rocky Balboa's speech won't help.
Entire youtube sucks you have nothing to write on the search bar. There's just a Facebook screen open and you check it over and over again, you watch that person's profile every 5 minutes.
You cannot sleep, try what you can but you won't sleep. You hate everything around you, you shout at people, So so many negative thoughts.

Then comes the flashback, you think too hard that it literally hurts in your brain, and the feeling somewhere around your heart is not just a feeling anymore it's a pain now, and the worst part is you've to live with it.

You don't know what to do, you think like million things to correct what you've done wrong but you're no longer that smart guy anymore you're a dumbass that's why it happened to you.



It's like being in hell.

If you want a book I recommend The Modern Breakup  by Daniel Chiliac