Why do humans fight ?

Lately I was studying the two great wars that our planet witnessed, World War I and World War II

I was shocked to see how inhuman these wars were. Now just these wars, the Partition of India was also kind of  war, millions died in that too. And many more examples are there to prove the madness of human being, and I did not find any good reason that triggered these wars. Just few egoistic men trying to prove they are more powerful than one another ? 

The concentration camps, Jews genocide, Sikh genocide, Nazis, Red Army etc this is too much. We need to stop.

There's no guarantee that there won't be a WW III. There are actual plans and strategies of various countries in preparation to WWIII. And trust me if there's a word for it then it exists. Sooner or later it'll happen and that'll be the end of mankind, all thanks to nuclear power.

In various countries that are underdeveloped there are communal riots. That's just great isn't it? You're more into killing other religion people rather than building a great and developed country ?
I mean seriously ? Are you willing to kill someone for a piece of land ? Soldiers are different they follow the chain of command but the one who gives them command, President, Prime Minister whatever, he should have thought this through. Nothing on this earth can justify the death of a single innocent man how can they justify lives of millions of people ?
And what on earth is the problem with man killing over religion. Why can't you all live in peace ?
Is it that hard ? Not at all, I wish to see a world where no one is scared of anyone.

God bless all.
Show them the path to harmony.

Vivek Choudhary

Love defined... Part 2 : The first love

This is about those who could not get their first love and will walk on the earth knowing that they will love her forever but they can't do anything about it. It's just a bunch of memories, a lot of memories that made them laugh someday but now gives just pain and we often smile through that pain looking at the sky, It feels so helpless.

No matter how many years go by, that one person just don't fade away from our memories. What makes that person so special ? Why no one else can fill that gap ? well its the first experience of love, people are honest, they don't know the rules,can't figure out whats the truth or they just don't see it, Love makes people blind. I knew a girl who dated a guy 10 years older than her we all knew it would end badly and it did, why we were able to see it but she couldn't ? Because she was in love, that's what love does. A few lucky couples like Lilly and Marshall gets it, but majority of us are like Ted/Robin.

Its kind of simple to understand it though, whatever we do for the first time we most probably mess it up. We are not perfect but this is something which hurts real bad, and the worst part is no one knows what you are going through and you can't explain it also. The first time you rode bicycle, you fell right ? everyone did. Even though our parents were there to support us and help us but we still fell many times and finally we learned it. In case of love, the first one happens when we are too young to understand, its called first crush, and majority of these crushes are not even realistic, e.g crush on teacher, crush on a college girl next door etc. But crush is one sided. Let's talk about the first relationship, the complete one, the mutual one. Pretty exciting right, saying "I love you" getting the same 3 words back from her feels amazing or the first time right. Everything is beautiful all you can think about is your partner, you get used to it, not a single day goes by when you don't talk to her. That first kiss, I bet this is one memory you'll take to the grave. But this very first relationship ends, and the one who was honest and committed to it gets hurt, there could be many reasons but it doesn't matter. All you can do is cry, that too alone.
I am a realistic and I have been there too, it took me more than a year to get over that breakup.
But we can't let our past ruin the present and future. I would suggest accept reality as soon as possible, let the memories be there but, start making new ones.

Love does not recognize the terms hide and seek. When it happens, it becomes visible without any fear or hesitation.


P.S
God bless all those who were hurt due to this in life.

Vivek Choudhary
Survivor

The Ellen DeGeneres Show

I was switching TV channels on a random morning, I stopped at one because the cute lady was saying something on the show and I decided to hear her out.
It was The Ellen DeGeneres Show, I have never seen it before but for some reasons I decided not to switch channels ahead and give it a try, and it was awesome. I got some new information (or old I am assuming it was late Indian telecast) from it too, like Obama in trailer of Dancing with stars, official announcement of Finding Dory by Pixar and Ellen.

So on this episode (Season 13 Episode 09) Ellen was trying to kick football and she asked a girl to come up on stage and try, the girl tried, she was filled with enthusiasm. That girl was so excited and jumping, extremely happy to be on the show. Then later Ellen showed her the car they were about to give that girl, you know the reaction when people get expensive stuff on TV shows, it was the same but this show is something different. If you take different types of show, a comedy show, musical show, a celebrity show (this type is so common that those too frequent celebs will soon be common) and human-interest stories, oh I forgot one "the 15 minutes fame" so take them all and put it in a grinder ,mix them well and the juice will be The Ellen DeGeneres Show. Its good, unique and a whole package deal. And I will give the credit to the entire team of this show and Ellen.
With this blog I am doing my little bit to encourage the makers/presenter of  a quality show,
Great Show guys and Ellen.


P.S
I am happy for the girl that got the car, god bless her :)


Vivek Choudhary

Ownership - The Corporate World

All those who work in corporate industry know what its like when the manager comes to you and asks about a problem, now if you whine about it, its not a good idea. You need to take ownership in the job you do. If you are assigned to do a job then all the headache is yours, the issues you will face, the solutions, everything. You are supposed to get the job done no matter what issues you face, if you have a problem then do not speak until you have a solution to it. If you take a good look at all the successful people out there you will find that, all of them know their job, they take their time, they get the job done.

I am writing about ownership because I come across many people who do not take responsibility in their actions, and I just don't get it, when it comes to appreciation everyone is like *me* but when it comes to criticism they are like *he*. Its not good morally and socially too, you will lose respect.
When you take ownership, you might be taking responsibility for many people's mistake but that makes the difference, Ownership takes you to the next level, eventually you will realize the management notices your work and people respect you more. You will soon be one of those guys who makes the decision. But all this will happen if you follow some basic rules
-I get paid by the company I should be loyal to it.
-I should respect the company because I get respect because of it.
-I am assigned to work on this project and I will give my best.

Always remember, you will get the best if you give the best. Don't think you work gets unnoticed, never ever, everything you do, all your actions are noticed, so make sure you leave a good impression.
The theory of survival of the fittest fits at all scenarios.
Take ownership and you will see the difference.


Vivek Choudhary
Senior Practitioner
Project Management System

Hate the culprit, not the entire community. A Bajrangi Bhaijaan review.

Honestly I did not expect much from this movie but the message it conveyed successfully and in a very cute/simple way is incredible. In our country (India), everyone knows two major Religions Hinduism and Islam, and due to British divide and rule policy (may be some other reasons too) there is a huge difference between these two communities. When our country was divided and a new nation Pakistan was formed, it was stated that the population will not be divided, but sadly it did not happen and we all know millions of people lost their lives in that horrifying event.

Since then, India and Pakistan are two nations who play cricket, fight battles, and much more. But I do not understand the reason we hate Pakistan ? That's because I am a man of reasons, logic, facts. You cannot hate the entire population of a nation just because of terrorism or government, there are terrorists in India too and they destruct their own country but does that mean we start hating our own country ?
These are my personal opinion. No harm intended to anyone.

The movie Bajrangi Bhaijaan enlightens the same concept of communal harmony. And I agree to it.
The character of Salman is named Pawan after "Pawan-sut" a devotee of Lord Hanuman. It justifies the reasons that he don't lie in entire movie, it is brilliant. And the compassion he feels for the girl is just right, even after knowing she is muslim and from Pakistan.  The Hanuman Chalisa is used at the right time and the music is impressive, it feels strong when you hear it that time. Simplicity of Salman and innocent smile make the character more believable. The director has done a great job. A typical Brahman Indian family is also portrayed quite well. Kareena fits well in the movie.
The climax is well written and brilliantly performed.

It turned out to be a great movie, defining the damaged relations of two countries.
You should watch it.

Love defined

Its not that you see someone you liked them and you are in love, it doesn't work that way.
You need to be head over heals to fall in love, you actually don't do it, it just happens, that's the beauty of it. If you think you can love someone, you are wrong, If you feel you have to have them everyday, every second in your life else you will feel incomplete the whole time, that my friend is called love.

For girls I don't know how it works, but for guys, they are flirt, they all are trust me, but a little healthy flirting doesn't mean he is not loyal to his girlfriend, it just a natural way to lighten the mood and to make that girl feel special and wanted once in a while. If a girl takes healthy flirting in a good way that means she is mature enough to understand whats going on. Jealousy is something that has no cure, you trust your partner that's it, if he/she is lying, betraying you then it will naturally come around and then you will have a choice to forgive or to move on. That's a crucial time, I personally will advise you to move on because once a cheater is always a cheater.

If you are single and disappointed that you will ever find love or not, just hang in there, your time will come and when it will come it will be more beautiful than you ever imagined.When you will fall in love, every shitty thing will seem beautiful to you, people who bothered you wont even matter, you will wait to see the one you love and when you will see the person, you will get butterflies in your stomach and that's the wonderful feeling you will ever feel.

It's all actually kind of dream, you know how dreams are so realistic you can't tell if it was a 

dream.

Many people think true love is no more, people just get into relationships to use each other, but ask me I have loved someone truly, we are not together, but I wish her a happy and better life, I know we will never be together, she is a wonderful girl who understand feelings and knows how to respect other's feelings. I wish her all the good things in life. God bless you.

For me love is not to get, it should be unconditional, we look for profit in every goddam thing on earth, love should be unconditional, otherwise its not love. It will be a business transaction.
Believe me true love is still out there, you just need to wait or identify the one and get going.
Hope, Faith, Peace, Love, Believe.

The Anti-Social Network

Hi everyone,

I want you all to take good 5 minutes of your lives and give this idea a piece of your mind.
The cellphone we use, majorly for Social Network, I couldn't be more straight here, "Just stop over doing it"

You are thinking you are closer to the person you love but actually you are going away. These networks are here for communication, not to live your life on a wall. I go to facebook once or twice a day (Actually I am a YouTube addict) just to see what my friends are up to and after scrolling for 30 seconds I am back in the real world, with people who are with me. In future when you won't have the bones to walk, the courage to jump, the passion to ride, you will regret each and every unproductive second spent here on these cobwebs of internet.

You need to make most of everything we have, because life may seem long, but its actually really small when you begin to realize the joy of small things. You may not realize this, just have a look the facts below.
Users send out 58 million tweets per day, with 9,100 happening every second. However, there are 222 million Twitters who just watch other people’s tweets. There are 684,478 pieces of content shared on Facebook; 3,600 new photos on Instagram; 2,083 check-ins on Foursquare during every minute of everyday. People are spending 1 out of every 7 minutes on Facebook when online. Facebook users typically are spending 10.5 Billion minutes (almost 20,000 years) on the social network. And, that’s excluding mobile devices. See 20,000 Years, we can't even begin to imagine how valuable and priceless piece of time is wasted and it goes on.

If you are applying for a new job, you know your chances of getting that job may be so much reduced because of your social networking website profile page? Often employs search for applicant’s social networking website’s profile page to know more about you.  Maybe you have put some humorous pics in your profile or maybe you have entered wrong information (maybe just for fun) in your profile.  Your employer will be shocked to see all that and you will not be given the job offer.

Just think all of the technology is here to help you, not to become so dependent on it that when you do not have it, you can't live anymore. Clicking pictures of food before eating it, taking risky selfies just to get more likes, getting jealous because of less number of followers or likes, writing about your personal life in public, please stop all this, this makes you look pathetic and desperate.

Remember who you are, act accordingly.

Vivek Choudhary