Love defined... Part 3 : Letting Go

This is the third series of my post Love Defined.
I am not an expert in love but I have had some good and bad experience in love. That makes me good enough to write about it. At least I know how it feels. This post is about in case you can't hold the relationship any longer and someone has to go.

There will be a time when things will go out of control, there could be any reason for this, a third person, family, distance etc. There will be a time in which there can be damage control but there will also be a time where you can do nothing about it. And its really hard to let go. One has to reevaluate his/her complete life, hold the shit together and start from scratch. It changes people. Now we all know that we should not think about past, but when a relationship ends it takes a part of you with it and in that case its very hard to get over it. I suggest in that time you should stop listening to sad songs and get busy in living. Get back with your friends and have fun. It won't help that much but it sure will reduce your alone time. Try to understand that this was meant to be, you were born (also) to be a part of this incomplete love story but that also suggests that this is not the end, there is a lot more. Things you can't see, the future, the bright shining future of yours. Its up to you whether you want to restart or just go to sleep mode.

There will be someone who will hug you so tight that all your broken pieces will fit together and you will forget about all the past. You will feel it, you will start dreaming again. Dreaming is very important, it keeps you alive, never stop dreaming.


Vivek Choudhary

Aamir's Intolerance Story Explained

Now I didn't research a lot on this neither do I've time for this. But here are my views.

First of all India is a very big country. We've all types of religions. Why do you care so much what an actor said ? The whole nation is going mad for this. All the keyboard warriors that even an eleven year old can beat are writing post after post and tweet after tweet. Did you even see the interview of Amir Khan I bet no. Where's the logic ? If he wanted to leave the country he would have done it long time ago. And even if he leaves, why the f*** do you care ? Is he your best friend? Anupam uncle ji who's nowhere near such matters when big politicians are involved is boasting like a lion over Amir khan. Rishi uncle who doesn't even speak ever, why he's barking on this issue ? I'll tell you why, Amir's issue is a SAFE issue. Amir is just an actor, and a muslim, and ruling party is BJP. So it's okay to speak now, right ? These Uncle's who should be doing charity work but instead are finding ways to enter into the political party by making themselves heard over a harmless topic. I bet they don't know what it's like to walk on a road in Delhi or Mumbai past 10pm.
Baat karte h saale.

And the media left no stone unturned to make money out if it. And people with their smartphone began posting their judgment as if they have the right to declare Amir guilty.
Imagine all these discussion, protest, resources, media coverage if used in an actual problem would have been really beneficial for this country. But no, everyone wakes up, oh what do I do today? It's a boring day, no spicy news, oh Amir said this ? How dare he? *opens his tweeter* I'll show that %$&*%$%*$$#@$%#@$.

That's it ? Is that you want ?

Resolve an issue like a grown man. For that you need to become a man. And real Men knows any statement made by a single person cannot affect the prestige of a country if rest of us prove it wrong by making it right if you know what I mean.

Grow Up my Indian nationals.
Think beyond these Religious issues.
Humanity is the biggest religion of all.

Vivek Choudhary.

The Decade of your life.

I was born on 25th of November 1991 that makes me 24 years old now.

It's time to reevaluate one's life. I believe and follow a philosophy that the age between 20 to 30 is the most productive and decision making decade of your lifetime. These 10 years either make you or break you. One should know how to utilize this time and make the most of it. Think practically, during these years, you're most energetic, passionate, fresh, powerful. You can use all these powers to make your life more comfortable and reach the state of success. After 30 you'll have your family to worry about, your kids, your ageing parents. You won't be able to focus in one direction. After 30 you can't physically or mentally give enough to your career/business so by then you should make your life comfortable enough to take care of those losses you'll have to deal with.

Then again if you don't want any of the stuff mentioned above and want to live your life like many teenagers, then go travel the world, have fun, party and hangout with friends. Whatever you do, remember, you won't get these 10 years back. So spend wisely.

I've completed 4 years of this decade. And so far I'm in a pretty good position in my career. I've 6 more years but I'll do it in less than that.

Stay focused, work hard, earn respect.
Respect is far more valuable than money.

Vivek Choudhary

Follow Traffic Rules.

I never thought I would be writing a blog on this, but everyday I see a lot of people not doing it, so I am trying at least if I can make one person to follow traffic rules via this post, I would be more than happy.
I work at a location not far from home, I drive for 15-20 minutes (depending upon traffic). I use the National Highway no. 8 (Delhi-Jaipur Highway) most of you would know about it, in fact there's a movie NH10 based on this highway. It is very spectacular and one of the most successful highways of India.
The problem is manly people ignoring small things that lead to drastic results, Many times it happens that people change lanes without any indicator, the break zone is not enough, people driving cars with only one headlight (this is extremely dangerous), they don't know the difference and use of high beam and low beam, hazard lights are used for fun and much more.

The other day I saw a guy threw a Coke can on the main road, it's a tin can it can damage the tire and tire could burst, it can disturb the balance of a two-wheeler, imagine a speeding vehicle tripping over a small can. But that guy just finished his coke and felt this urge to get rid of the can that too on the main road. Dear bastard, God bless you and put some sense in you.
India is known for lack of civic sense in people, but they need to realize that this mistakes costs many lives everyday. By obeying traffic rules they don't only save their life but others life too. It's all about being a good citizen, and for this you need to be good human, being a good human is an art. Just do this simple thing which you can and it doesn't cost any money. Drive sensibly make yourself deserving of the road.

Vivek Choudhary

Earthquake of 26th Oct 2015 : My experience

First of all I'd like to thank God that I'm alive and in sound condition. But I experienced a near to death situation today. The fear, adrenaline rush I had it all today.

Below are the real events happened with me today on 26th October 2015.

We were all sitting in the office doing our work. My office is in cyber city, Gurgaon, 5th floor   (technically 9th because 0,-1,-2,-3) in infinity towers. I was talking to a colleague and I felt my head spinning it took me a moment to realize it was the building swinging like a pendulum. We all stood up, I took my wallet and phone from my desk and walked towards the fire escape. The boards hanging on the wall were in motion. In the staircase there were people from 9th to ground floor. All moving at normal speed. During our long journey from 5th to ground floor, we could feel the building spinning maybe it was the aftershocks. That constant fear of everything could break, magnitude could increase, we all could die thoughts like this were making many of us nervous. Finally we reached ground floor and out of the building. It was experience of a lifetime. To feel you could die any moment makes you feel alive.

The epicentre was Afghanistan and Pakistan, magnitude was 7.5
More than 250 people died in these countries. May god bless them all and they rest in peace.

What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

Vivek Choudhary

Why do humans fight ?

Lately I was studying the two great wars that our planet witnessed, World War I and World War II

I was shocked to see how inhuman these wars were. Now just these wars, the Partition of India was also kind of  war, millions died in that too. And many more examples are there to prove the madness of human being, and I did not find any good reason that triggered these wars. Just few egoistic men trying to prove they are more powerful than one another ? 

The concentration camps, Jews genocide, Sikh genocide, Nazis, Red Army etc this is too much. We need to stop.

There's no guarantee that there won't be a WW III. There are actual plans and strategies of various countries in preparation to WWIII. And trust me if there's a word for it then it exists. Sooner or later it'll happen and that'll be the end of mankind, all thanks to nuclear power.

In various countries that are underdeveloped there are communal riots. That's just great isn't it? You're more into killing other religion people rather than building a great and developed country ?
I mean seriously ? Are you willing to kill someone for a piece of land ? Soldiers are different they follow the chain of command but the one who gives them command, President, Prime Minister whatever, he should have thought this through. Nothing on this earth can justify the death of a single innocent man how can they justify lives of millions of people ?
And what on earth is the problem with man killing over religion. Why can't you all live in peace ?
Is it that hard ? Not at all, I wish to see a world where no one is scared of anyone.

God bless all.
Show them the path to harmony.

Vivek Choudhary

Love defined... Part 2 : The first love

This is about those who could not get their first love and will walk on the earth knowing that they will love her forever but they can't do anything about it. It's just a bunch of memories, a lot of memories that made them laugh someday but now gives just pain and we often smile through that pain looking at the sky, It feels so helpless.

No matter how many years go by, that one person just don't fade away from our memories. What makes that person so special ? Why no one else can fill that gap ? well its the first experience of love, people are honest, they don't know the rules,can't figure out whats the truth or they just don't see it, Love makes people blind. I knew a girl who dated a guy 10 years older than her we all knew it would end badly and it did, why we were able to see it but she couldn't ? Because she was in love, that's what love does. A few lucky couples like Lilly and Marshall gets it, but majority of us are like Ted/Robin.

Its kind of simple to understand it though, whatever we do for the first time we most probably mess it up. We are not perfect but this is something which hurts real bad, and the worst part is no one knows what you are going through and you can't explain it also. The first time you rode bicycle, you fell right ? everyone did. Even though our parents were there to support us and help us but we still fell many times and finally we learned it. In case of love, the first one happens when we are too young to understand, its called first crush, and majority of these crushes are not even realistic, e.g crush on teacher, crush on a college girl next door etc. But crush is one sided. Let's talk about the first relationship, the complete one, the mutual one. Pretty exciting right, saying "I love you" getting the same 3 words back from her feels amazing or the first time right. Everything is beautiful all you can think about is your partner, you get used to it, not a single day goes by when you don't talk to her. That first kiss, I bet this is one memory you'll take to the grave. But this very first relationship ends, and the one who was honest and committed to it gets hurt, there could be many reasons but it doesn't matter. All you can do is cry, that too alone.
I am a realistic and I have been there too, it took me more than a year to get over that breakup.
But we can't let our past ruin the present and future. I would suggest accept reality as soon as possible, let the memories be there but, start making new ones.

Love does not recognize the terms hide and seek. When it happens, it becomes visible without any fear or hesitation.


P.S
God bless all those who were hurt due to this in life.

Vivek Choudhary
Survivor